Last month, I encouraged you to have a funeral policy. This month, I want to encourage you to have a wedding policy.
Aside from confessing Jesus as your Lord and Savior, getting married is one of the most important decisions that someone will make on this side of eternity. And, for most people, it’s very important who they ask to officiate their wedding.
So, that leads me to this question… “Who are you willing to marry?” For example, I know some guys who are willing to marry anyone because they see it as an opportunity to share the gospel. However, I know other guys who are very selective of who they will marry because they have stronger convictions concerning certain things.
If I am honest with you, I find myself in the second group. I am more selective of who I will marry, and who I won’t. For example… Personally, I won’t marry a couple if they aren’t both followers of Jesus. I believe that marriage is not only a civil ceremony that is recognized by the state, but also a spiritual union that was established by God. So, how can I in good conscience ask God to bless someone’s marriage when they don’t follow Jesus? In my opinion, I think it’s best for unbelievers to go to the Justice of the Peace.
I have other convictions on marriage as well (homosexuality, alcohol, divorce and remarriage, etc.), and I have them documented in my wedding policy. Anytime someone asks me to marry them, I don’t have to say yes or no. I let my wedding policy answer that question. When someone asks me to marry them, I respond by saying, “Let me send you my wedding policy first, and then let’s talk.” If someone can affirm my wedding policy, then I am happy to marry them. If they can’t, then I won’t.
If you don’t currently have a wedding policy, let me encourage you to begin working on one. It’s important that you know where you stand, and it’s important that you stay true to your convictions.
If you would like to see a copy of my wedding policy, I have uploaded it to my website HERE.